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The Parent's Own Story: Why You Are Also Writing a Life

By Leon MoriguchiPublished May 13, 2026Updated May 18, 20266 min read日本語版あり
Audience
Parents of young children who have begun to notice their own transformation

TL;DR

  • ·Memory is not storage but reconstruction: the way a caregiver and child talk about shared past events actively shapes both the child's developing autobiographical memory and the parent's own self-narrative simultaneously
  • ·Becoming a parent is a developmental transition comparable in scope to adolescence — the concept of matrescence frames the disorientation and identity renegotiation of early parenthood as normal transformation, not pathology
  • ·The act of recording is narration: three lines per day connect the self who lived through a moment to the self who is remembering it, and the records that survive become the material from which a parent's own story is eventually built

Contents

  1. Lead
  2. What autobiographical memory actually does
  3. Becoming a parent as a developmental transition
  4. Generativity and the meaning of what we leave behind
  5. The chapter called "the years of raising young children"
  6. What recording is
  7. Summary
  8. References

Lead

A parenting log is a record of the child. That seemed obvious.

Then one day you notice: you are in the record too. The short line written the day your child first smiled includes "didn't sleep much today." The 2 a.m. feeding entry is just a timestamp. In the corner of the photo from the first day of preschool, your fingers appear at the edge of the frame.

A record of a child's development is also a stratigraphic layer of the parent's own transformation. This article is about the rewriting of one's own story that happens during the years of raising a young child. And as the hundredth and final article in this column, it is also an occasion to ask what the act of recording means from one step further back.

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